The world of family law is often a battleground. Yet, even in such a demanding arena, some individuals rise above the fray. Bob Hoover, a Santa Clara County family law attorney who practiced for over 60 years before his passing at 93, was one such person.
A display of character
I once opposed Bob in a horrific case. My client, consumed by the anguish of his marriage’s end, made a desperate, tragic choice that dramatically altered his life, his wife’s life, and his relationship with his children. Despite the emotional toll and the complexity of the situation, Bob skillfully won the case.
What defined that experience, and indeed Bob’s character, wasn’t just his legal victory, but his conduct in its aftermath. After the case concluded, Bob regularly sent me notes during the holidays. At first, I grimaced when I received them. But, as time passed I came to cherish his willingness to move forward. Decades later, his astonishing recall of the case’s details was matched only by his gracious praise for my efforts on behalf of my client. It was a powerful reminder that even in fierce legal combat, one can maintain profound respect for an adversary.
Beyond the briefs
Bob chronicled his six-decade career in a two-volume book, a testament to his deep knowledge of family law. I had the privilege of editing his work and was struck by his humility regarding his writing skills.
We even engaged in spirited debates, particularly on his observation that the arrival of female attorneys had negatively impacted family law (ironically, his law firm is now filled with female attorneys). Yet, even when our viewpoints diverged, he always engaged with an open mind.
Years later, over lunch, I remember how he’d go from critiquing his own work to sharing guidance and compliments. His willingness to provide me—a former opponent—mentorship speaks volumes about his character and his commitment to the broader legal community.
The enduring impact of gratitude and connection
Bob’s professional legacy is being carried on by son Jim and Jim’s partner, Travis Krepelka. It grew into the largest family law firm on the peninsula. Yet, it was the annual birthday celebrations hosted by Jim and Travis that perhaps best encapsulate Bob’s spirit. Attended by friends, colleagues and judges, they’re a testament to the profound respect and affection he garnered.
Bob’s speeches there were legendary. Delivered without notes, they were always witty, compelling and filled with gratitude for the people and moments in his life. He spoke of simple pleasures, like listening to my fiancé, Lissa, on her morning radio show, finding a smile before tackling his day. Considering these moments underscores for me how Bob was a man who, despite his professional achievements, never lost sight of what’s truly important.
A lesson for Los Gatos
Bob Hoover, a long-time Los Gatos resident, was more than just an exceptional attorney. He was a living example that true strength in any profession, particularly one as demanding as the law, comes not just from winning. It’s how you play the game. His life demonstrates that professionalism isn’t merely about adhering to rules, but about embodying respect, maintaining grace under pressure and extending civility even to those with whom you disagree.
In our increasingly polarized world, Bob Hoover’s approach—his ability to be a formidable advocate while remaining a true gentleman—is one we could all learn from.
